“Joe Grine” and “Jacket” : Two Jamaican Phenomena

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Sharing your Lover

Jamaica is an island that is soaking wet with sexual energy. Our language, lifestyle and entertainment keep the world transfixed and aroused, but nothing causes more excitement and mystery than the Jamaican vagina.

I know I will be severely criticized for addressing this highly salacious topic, especially by the women. Many women are psychologically skillful beings. They are capable of subtly and deceptively influencing a man by using one of their most powerful physical assets - the vagina. The importance of the vagina is amplified by the fact that most Jamaican men are obsessed with finding, securing and possessing multiple vaginas. Furthermore, some men ambiguously and presumptuously assume the title of 'vagina bully’. 

What is clear is that no man can own or destroy the vagina, but you may request it, use it, and/or leave it be. Most importantly, is the fact that no man holds the deed or title to any vagina. It is the one piece of real estate (asset) that God granted to a woman to use at her discretion and for her sole benefit. If she allows you to use it, enjoy it.

The vagina is not willable! It cannot be dominated! It cannot be intimidated or neutralized!

The very design of the vagina, with its orifice, signifies that it was made to accommodate varied penises. Its flexible and elastic nature makes its use both prolific and situational, as it is one-size-fits-all, making it inherently shareable.

That's just it.... 

Many Jamaican women get bored with using one penis and end up in the marketplace searching for a better one. Sometimes, when women become frustrated or upset with their significant other, they “give away” the vagina. In these instances, the lucky recipient of this careless kindness is culturally termed “Mr. Joe Grine”.

She is my Baby

Mr. Joe Grine

Mr. Joe Grine calms the woman with his highly functional penis. He is a secret lover, though the secret is often open. What makes Mr. Joe Grine so relevant? Many times, a Joe Grine is secured by a woman to compensate for her partner's inadequacies. The Bible reveals that only God is perfect, yet many women still go searching for perfection, an ever-elusive pursuit.

The great irony is that Mr. Joe Grine thoroughly enjoys his role, as he typically has no emotional or financial obligations to the woman. A Joe Grine without responsibility is often called a 'Servicer' by many women, as his sole purpose is to provide sexual services.

However, a Joe Grine who takes on responsibilities is highly sought after by many women. As a result, he often plays this role for multiple women simultaneously. With careful skill, he manages his time and resources to provide sexual, emotional and financial support, making the arrangement deeply appealing. In many cases, the woman becomes almost dependent on this dynamic, sometimes using the benefits to improve not only her own life but also the well-being of her significant other and or family. Sex does not come without consequences and children are often conceived in these secret unions.

Take her to Court

Jacket       

The Joe Grine phenomenon in Jamaica, gave rise to the jacket phenomenon. This is a term used to identify a child who is being raised by a man who is not his or her biological father. The issue is that man believes he is the biological father because he is the significant other of the mother.

I believe Joe Grines are responsible for most jackets in Jamaica. In fulfilling his role, the main collateral damage is unwanted pregnancy and many times, the woman is unsure who the true father is. Research revealed that 25% of Jamaica men are raising children they did not father. Typically, when a woman believes that her pregnancy might be the result of a sexual act with Joe Grine, she selects the more or most stable candidate to be the father. That stable candidate is selected because of financial stability and or social acceptability.

Sadly, many times, the significant other or husband is given a child that is not biologically his. Bonds are formed with the child and investments are made in the child. Truly, this is a severe act of deception by the woman. The legal term for this act of deception is called paternity fraud. Jamaica people would say, "Di oman gi him a jacket" or “Di man get Joe.”

In cases of paternity fraud, the mother keeps a dark secret, the significant other is deceived, Joe Grine loses the chance to bond with his biological child and the child loses the chance to bond with his biological father. This is trauma from every angle. What a world!

Jacket Exposed

Dr. DF's Suggestions

The following are some suggestions on this subject:

1. The Burden of Motherhood – Women bear the responsibility of bringing every newborn into the world. Just as importantly, women hold the power to make a man a father through paternal assignment. No man can be called a father without a woman granting him that right. The most important responsibility on earth given to a woman is childbirth and this privilege and honor should be treated as sacred.

   
   

2. Men and Women Are Cheaters – I believe both men and women cheat equally. However, women are often more discreet and can hide their desires and actions better. Women are emotional beings who require ongoing love and affection to thrive and sometimes, unfortunately, the man they turn to for emotional satisfaction is not necessarily their lover, fiancé, or husband. A women must utilize better judgement on these matters.

   
   

3. Jacket is a Heartless Act – It is a cruel and heartless act to deceive a man by assigning him the wrong paternity. While everyone has the right to share their body as they choose, no one has the right to assign a child to the wrong father. Great families create great nations. Our mothers should select good fathers and, in doing so, proudly offer the correct paternity to the man with whom she conceived her newborn.

   
   

4. Men are Pain Givers – Men have caused tremendous pain to the women they love and care for. Their poor choices and actions have often influenced the difficult and sometimes harmful decisions women make. This is not an excuse for the wrong actions of many women, but an acknowledgment that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Men, you need to lead, love, and respect your woman. Our failures play a significant role in shaping their actions.

   
   

5. Fatherhood is a Gift of Life – I am the father of four (4) “Black Pearls”. At the age of 24, I embraced the mantle of fatherhood, and it has been the most significant and life-changing experience of my life. I support men taking on the important role of fatherhood, regardless of how the responsibility and role were bestowed upon them. I encourage those men who have been wrongfully assigned fatherhood to retain that title and make this world a better place.

Conclusion

Jamaicans embrace the joys of intimacy and the importance of family, yet, unfortunately, there have been instances where sex has been used as a tool of abuse and trauma. The slogan "Two is better than too many" reflects a critical intervention by the Jamaican government to address the country's high birth rate.

In response to challenges faced, such as some Jamaican women incorrectly attributing paternity to their partner instead of Mr. Joe Crine, another crucial policy consideration by the Jamaican government is providing free DNA testing for men who have doubts about their biological connection to newborns.

If you are a father experiencing wrongful paternity, strive to be the best father you can be. Instead of focusing solely on blame, prioritize finding the best path forward for the child's well-being. As Psalm 127:3 reminds us, "Children are a heritage from the Lord." Let us honor and nurture them accordingly.

To both males and females, remember, that to whom much is given, much is expected… NUH BITE OFF MORE DAN YUH CAN CHEW!!!!

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